But Do We Have to Submit?

But Do We Have to Submit?

By Nicole Veldink

Recently, submission has become a topic of discussion as it pertains to authority and marriage. Being the independent, free-spirited person that I am, I have struggled with the idea of doing whatever someone tells me, no questions asked, simply because that person is an authority figure or a male.

“ Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). This verse, according to Dr. Swanson, is usually taken out of context. Submission is a mutual act, made by husband and wife out of love rather than an act of showing who’s boss. Dr. Swanson went on to say that both sides of marriage “make sacrifices.” Women do not have to give up their careers or become housewives just because they are married. Marriage is made up of two complementary roles, not just one dominating the other. Dr. Swanson presents a further study of women in the church in his class, which hopefully will be offered again in the fall of 2017.

Now, this is not meant to be a feminist article empowering women to speak out against the oppression brought on by the Reformed male population. Submission is a struggle we all face at some point in our lives, whether it be with a professor, boss, or politician. To get some more insight, Dr. De Soto and I discussed submission as it applies to authority figures.

“I think Christians should be activists…I think that we shouldn’t be docile; if we see something unjust, we should do something about it.”

She adds that, “That’s important too, I think. Just starting a dialogue.” While sometimes it can be scary to go talk to professors, they do have office hours for a reason. They want us to come talk to them.

Submission is not something we should practice in fear of consequences but within friendships and relationships as a sign of respect and love for one another. Rather than thinking about what we can take from a relationship, we should consider what we can give to those we love.